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Compared to the cultural dialogue we have around gender bias and racism in the sciences, there is little discussion in media of issues of queer-related bias. Many scientists keep their queer identity invisible, which leaves young queer and questioning people with few queer role models in scientific fields. By failing to discuss the unique barriers to queer people in the scientists, we allow the image of smart, successful scientists to become disconnected from our socially constructed projections of homosexuality.
From our article Queer Science: LGBT Scientists Discuss Coming Out at Work.
Laverne Cox and her mother on stage at the 2014 GLAAD Media Awards.
Laverne was honored with this year’s Stephen F. Kolzak Award, which is given to an openly LGBT member of the entertainment or media community for his or her work toward eliminating discrimination against the LGBT community. Previous winners include Ellen DeGeneres, Chaz Bono and Wanda Sykes.
This is an hour-long presentation, presented as part of UVa’s Pride Week, in which I discuss asexual relationships, talk about why asexual/asexual relationships are uncommon, discuss some suggestions for non-asexual people who want to have relationships with asexual people, and give some advice for asexual people who want to have relationships (either with asexual people or non-asexual people). At the end I also touch on non-romantic relationships as well.
I answered questions at the end, and after the video was over a couple of asexual people from the audience connected with me as well. Hooray!
I’m sorry, this does not yet have captions. It will take me a while to get around to writing them!
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i’ve been thinking about the posts that say ‘don’t gender strangers’ and ‘don’t assume anyone’s gender just from looking at them’
and yes, that makes sense, but only to a point. because we often deliberately communicate gender through appearance. i’m not going to assume that every person who looks like they’re broadcasting a binary gender is, but often, people DO want you to assume their gender. whether that gender is “woman” or “man”, whether it’s feminine or masculine, whether they want you to be confused or get a sense of gender-variance. also, there are plenty of people who don’t fit under ‘cis’ but who use ‘he’ or ‘she’ pronouns. there are plenty of people who aren’t cis but don’t fit into the western/white concept of ‘trans’. and there are also people who don’t really care how their gender is perceived.
furthermore it’s possible to misgender someone subtly without using the wrong pronouns or calling them the wrong name. like by saying, “well you don’t really count as ____.”
basically what i think is “never assume anyone’s gender from their appearance” is not a better maxim than “always assume everyone’s gender from their appearance,” because either one can be used in hurtful and cissexist ways. that’s just how it’s going to shake down.
also asking pronouns can be a way of misgendering people. I have definitely seen (and seen people, esp. trans women, complaining about) people assuming the pronouns of everyone in the room except the person they read as a trans woman
and that is just transmisogynist fuckery
like, to be clear: there’s nothing wrong with consistently asking the pronouns of everyone you interact with, but it is pretty wrong to only ask the pronouns of people you think of as gender-non-conforming. Especially if they’re just gender-non-conforming because they’re early in their transition and maybe have beard shadow or something else they can’t help and you are implicitly saying they Don’t Count As Women.
also really feeling the point about subtle misgendering. Subtle misgendering is the worst for me, partially because a lot of the people I interact with fuck up my pronouns because they’re unfamiliar but don’t intend to misgender me, so I’m used to it. But the sort of “well, you don’t really count” is pretty much universally IME from someone who doesn’t respect your gender and who thinks you are your assigned sex at birth. (This is an I-statement and I am not saying anything about how other people’s dysphoria should manifest— like it’s fine to feel dysphoric because people fuck up your pronouns, I just generally don’t.)
Stop saying “cishet” when you mean “cis.” Gay, lesbian, and bisexual people regularly fuck over trans people (like removing transgender rights from bills so that they’ll pass faster!!) and they don’t get a pass just because they’re ~not heterosexuals~
And cis LGB activists are especially eager to shit on trans women. Don’t forget that.
i love it when straight girls are “in a relationship” with their straight girl friends on facebook because it reminds me that my existence is a hilarious joke
(in which members of the lgbtq community speak out about why they’re not open about their sexuality with their families.)
Shari Heck, 2014.
The notions that LGBT people MUST be out or else they don’t respect themselves, or their harboring internalized homophobia, or they’re not being TRUE to themselves are SO harmful and SO problematic because there are people like this in situations where the choice between staying in the closet and coming out is often the choice between safety and very real danger.
This breaks my heart. The first, and most important, job of any parent is to love their child. This is unacceptable. Love is so important and yet all we seem to do is spread hate and fear. Especially to our own children.
DOES ANYONE ELSE WATCH THIS SHOW SIRENS?!
So Sirens is a single camera comedy revolving around the lives of EMTs. Last night they revealed that Voodoo, the female above, is asexual. Now when they first said this on the show, it was told by Brian’s (male above) trainers, who are comedically narcissistic and self-destructive. So naturally, I didn’t believe them.
Now Brian likes her and was going to ask her out when his fellow EMTs told him that she was asexual. And when he did go to talk to her, he did the typical thing that most people who don’t understand anything outside of straight and gay say, “maybe it’s just a phase”.
First off, she was very cool about it. Clearly she had dealt with this before and she knew Brian was a lovable good guy so she just broke it down for him and made it clear—she’s into guys, and would love to get closer to Brian, but sex is NEVER on the table because it just isn’t for her.
At the end of the episode, Brian goes to her place and you know what he does? HE ACCEPTS HER DECISION. He tells her flat out, “You don’t want to have sex and I’m not having sex right now (not by choice) but I still like you, and even if we never have sex…it’s fine.”
SO NOT ONLY, did they actually portray an asexual person as someone capable of romantic feelings and being attracted to someone, but they also gave them a love interest where he is accepting of her decision but still chooses to be with her anyway because he likes her that much!
ARGHHH. THIS. MORE OF THIS PLEASE. I watch a lot of TV but I can honestly say this is the first time I’ve ever seen an actual asexual character where they identify themselves as asexual and it’s done so well.
OMG so exciting. I don’t watch the show but I’ll have to check it out now! Do you know if the episodes are available online anywhere?