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lalondes:

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE DON’T SCROLL PAST THIS.
Scarleteen is a vital queer and trans positive sexual health resource. Their staff do an amazing job of creating really comprehensive and helpful articles on literally every sexual topic you can imagine. They also provide live chats, advice columns, moderated discussion forums, and SMS-based peer support. This site has helped me on countless occasions, and I refer at-risk queer and trans kids to this site every single day.
Scarleteen is invaluable.
And Scarleteen needs your help.
During their annual donation drive this year, the site was only able to raise $1,500. Only fifty people out of Scarleteen’s 350,000 unique monthly visitors contributed to the fundraising drive.
This means that unless Scarleteen sees a stable, sustained, 50% increase in donations, the site will essentially be forced to go dark on May 1. No more new content, no more advice columns, no more forums, no more live chat, no more SMS support. 
This is devastating.
If Scarleteen goes dark, millions of young people, vulnerable queer and trans teens among them, will lose access to essential, fundamental sexual health resources. We cannot let this happen.
Please, please, please donate to Scarleteen. Consider making a recurring monthly contribution if you feel that this is within your means. Even $5 or $10 a month will go a long way to helping this very, very deserving organization.
And whether or not you’re able to donate at this time, please signal boost this and spread the word. Scarleteen does incredible, very necessary work, and they need our help.

lalondes:

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE DON’T SCROLL PAST THIS.

Scarleteen is a vital queer and trans positive sexual health resource. Their staff do an amazing job of creating really comprehensive and helpful articles on literally every sexual topic you can imagine. They also provide live chats, advice columns, moderated discussion forums, and SMS-based peer support. This site has helped me on countless occasions, and I refer at-risk queer and trans kids to this site every single day.

Scarleteen is invaluable.

And Scarleteen needs your help.

During their annual donation drive this year, the site was only able to raise $1,500. Only fifty people out of Scarleteen’s 350,000 unique monthly visitors contributed to the fundraising drive.

This means that unless Scarleteen sees a stable, sustained, 50% increase in donations, the site will essentially be forced to go dark on May 1. No more new content, no more advice columns, no more forums, no more live chat, no more SMS support. 

This is devastating.

If Scarleteen goes dark, millions of young people, vulnerable queer and trans teens among them, will lose access to essential, fundamental sexual health resources. We cannot let this happen.

Please, please, please donate to Scarleteen. Consider making a recurring monthly contribution if you feel that this is within your means. Even $5 or $10 a month will go a long way to helping this very, very deserving organization.

And whether or not you’re able to donate at this time, please signal boost this and spread the word. Scarleteen does incredible, very necessary work, and they need our help.

bitch-media:


Compared to the cultural dialogue we have around gender bias and racism in the sciences, there is little discussion in media of issues of queer-related bias. Many scientists keep their queer identity invisible, which leaves young queer and questioning people with few queer role models in scientific fields. By failing to discuss the unique barriers to queer people in the scientists, we allow the image of smart, successful scientists to become disconnected from our socially constructed projections of homosexuality.

From our article Queer Science: LGBT Scientists Discuss Coming Out at Work.

bitch-media:

Compared to the cultural dialogue we have around gender bias and racism in the sciences, there is little discussion in media of issues of queer-related bias. Many scientists keep their queer identity invisible, which leaves young queer and questioning people with few queer role models in scientific fields. By failing to discuss the unique barriers to queer people in the scientists, we allow the image of smart, successful scientists to become disconnected from our socially constructed projections of homosexuality.

From our article Queer Science: LGBT Scientists Discuss Coming Out at Work.

thenonbinarysafespace:

Please take this survey if you are nonbinary, and signal boost it afterwards. (Signal boost even if you aren’t!)

queerfeminist:

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web-o:

“Los gays musulmanes necesitamos aceptación!”

queerfeminist:

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web-o:

“Los gays musulmanes necesitamos aceptación!”

fuckyeahlavernecox:

Laverne Cox and her mother on stage at the 2014 GLAAD Media Awards.Laverne was honored with this year’s Stephen F. Kolzak Award, which is given to an openly LGBT member of the entertainment or media community for his or her work toward eliminating discrimination against the LGBT community. Previous winners include Ellen DeGeneres, Chaz Bono and Wanda Sykes.
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fuckyeahlavernecox:

Laverne Cox and her mother on stage at the 2014 GLAAD Media Awards.

Laverne was honored with this year’s Stephen F. Kolzak Award, which is given to an openly LGBT member of the entertainment or media community for his or her work toward eliminating discrimination against the LGBT community. Previous winners include Ellen DeGeneres, Chaz Bono and Wanda Sykes.

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owning-my-truth:

Say it with me:

Animated image of a young black child shouting, "THAT'S RACIST!"

swankivy:

"Asexual Relationships" talk at the University of Virginia!

This is an hour-long presentation, presented as part of UVa’s Pride Week, in which I discuss asexual relationships, talk about why asexual/asexual relationships are uncommon, discuss some suggestions for non-asexual people who want to have relationships with asexual people, and give some advice for asexual people who want to have relationships (either with asexual people or non-asexual people). At the end I also touch on non-romantic relationships as well.

I answered questions at the end, and after the video was over a couple of asexual people from the audience connected with me as well. Hooray!

I’m sorry, this does not yet have captions. It will take me a while to get around to writing them!

womensstudentactivistcollective:

The Trans* Awareness Project is a poster and digital media campaign that attempts to challenge stereotypes and cultivate an environment which celebrates and respects people of all genders. This campaign aims to break down barriers between communities and establish positive social change by showcasing empowering snapshots of local trans* communities and bringing attention to the challenges that many trans* people face in daily life. (x)

ozymandias271:

andromedalogic:

i’ve been thinking about the posts that say ‘don’t gender strangers’ and ‘don’t assume anyone’s gender just from looking at them’

and yes, that makes sense, but only to a point. because we often deliberately communicate gender through appearance. i’m not going to assume that every person who looks like they’re broadcasting a binary gender is, but often, people DO want you to assume their gender. whether that gender is “woman” or “man”, whether it’s feminine or masculine, whether they want you to be confused or get a sense of gender-variance. also, there are plenty of people who don’t fit under ‘cis’ but who use ‘he’ or ‘she’ pronouns. there are plenty of people who aren’t cis but don’t fit into the western/white concept of ‘trans’. and there are also people who don’t really care how their gender is perceived.

furthermore it’s possible to misgender someone subtly without using the wrong pronouns or calling them the wrong name. like by saying, “well you don’t really count as ____.”

basically what i think is “never assume anyone’s gender from their appearance” is not a better maxim than “always assume everyone’s gender from their appearance,” because either one can be used in hurtful and cissexist ways. that’s just how it’s going to shake down.

yes this

also asking pronouns can be a way of misgendering people. I have definitely seen (and seen people, esp. trans women, complaining about) people assuming the pronouns of everyone in the room except the person they read as a trans woman

and that is just transmisogynist fuckery 

like, to be clear: there’s nothing wrong with consistently asking the pronouns of everyone you interact with, but it is pretty wrong to only ask the pronouns of people you think of as gender-non-conforming. Especially if they’re just gender-non-conforming because they’re early in their transition and maybe have beard shadow or something else they can’t help and you are implicitly saying they Don’t Count As Women. 

also really feeling the point about subtle misgendering. Subtle misgendering is the worst for me, partially because a lot of the people I interact with fuck up my pronouns because they’re unfamiliar but don’t intend to misgender me, so I’m used to it. But the sort of “well, you don’t really count” is pretty much universally IME from someone who doesn’t respect your gender and who thinks you are your assigned sex at birth. (This is an I-statement and I am not saying anything about how other people’s dysphoria should manifest— like it’s fine to feel dysphoric because people fuck up your pronouns, I just generally don’t.)

kiriamaya:

city-ghost:

Stop saying “cishet” when you mean “cis.” Gay, lesbian, and bisexual people regularly fuck over trans people (like removing transgender rights from bills so that they’ll pass faster!!) and they don’t get a pass just because they’re ~not heterosexuals~

And cis LGB activists are especially eager to shit on trans women. Don’t forget that.

glowcloud:

i love it when straight girls are “in a relationship” with their straight girl friends on facebook because it reminds me that my existence is a hilarious joke

aerylon:

airagorncharda:

herbertbillings:

100 Reasons (Why I’m Not Out To My Family)” pt. 2

(in which members of the lgbtq community speak out about why they’re not open about their sexuality with their families.)

poster series

Shari Heck, 2014.

The notions that LGBT people MUST be out or else they don’t respect themselves, or their harboring internalized homophobia, or they’re not being TRUE to themselves are SO harmful and SO problematic because there are people like this in situations where the choice between staying in the closet and coming out is often the choice between safety and very real danger.

This breaks my heart.  The first, and most important, job of any parent is to love their child.  This is unacceptable.  Love is so important and yet all we seem to do is spread hate and fear.  Especially to our own children.

(Source: spamanos)

nextstepcake:

titaniagigante:

DOES ANYONE ELSE WATCH THIS SHOW SIRENS?!

So Sirens is a single camera comedy revolving around the lives of EMTs. Last night they revealed that Voodoo, the female above, is asexual. Now when they first said this on the show, it was told by Brian’s (male above) trainers, who are comedically narcissistic and self-destructive. So naturally, I didn’t believe them.

Now Brian likes her and was going to ask her out when his fellow EMTs told him that she was asexual. And when he did go to talk to her, he did the typical thing that most people who don’t understand anything outside of straight and gay say, “maybe it’s just a phase”. 

First off, she was very cool about it. Clearly she had dealt with this before and she knew Brian was a lovable good guy so she just broke it down for him and made it clear—she’s into guys, and would love to get closer to Brian, but sex is NEVER on the table because it just isn’t for her. 

At the end of the episode, Brian goes to her place and you know what he does? HE ACCEPTS HER DECISION. He tells her flat out, “You don’t want to have sex and I’m not having sex right now (not by choice) but I still like you, and even if we never have sex…it’s fine.

SO NOT ONLY, did they actually portray an asexual person as someone capable of romantic feelings and being attracted to someone, but they also gave them a love interest where he is accepting of her decision but still chooses to be with her anyway because he likes her that much!

ARGHHH. THIS. MORE OF THIS PLEASE. I watch a lot of TV but I can honestly say this is the first time I’ve ever seen an actual asexual character where they identify themselves as asexual and it’s done so well.

OMG so exciting. I don’t watch the show but I’ll have to check it out now! Do you know if the episodes are available online anywhere?